Celebrating the Incredible Journey of a Century: Happy Birthday, Gram 🎂 4/08/1910

Today marks a special remembrance, not just of a date but of the extraordinary life that began on this day 114 years ago. It`s been fourteen years since we last celebrated together, yet the essence of your spirit feels as present as ever. Your wisdom, laughter, and the warmth of your embrace linger in the air, timeless and comforting.

Having you by my side for most of my life was a privilege that words can hardly express. Your presence was a guiding light, illuminating paths through moments of doubt and uncertainty. Your stories, brimming with wisdom gleaned from a century of experience, were not just tales of the past but lessons for a lifetime. You taught us the value of resilience, the importance of kindness, and the strength that lies in unity.

I often find myself reflecting on the countless moments we shared, each a precious memory close to my heart. I remember your eyes lighting up at the sight of your family, a testament to the boundless love you had for each of us. Your laughter was a melody that brought joy to our gatherings, and your hugs a sense of warmth and security.
You were our matriarch, our mentor, and our friend. Your legacy lives on, not just in the memories we cherish but in our very fabric. You laid the foundation for our family, instilling in us the virtues of integrity, compassion, and perseverance.

As I write this, I`m reminded of your enduring influence and the lessons that continue to guide us. Your journey may have begun over a century ago, but the impact of your life transcends time. Today, we celebrate your birth and the remarkable legacy you`ve left behind.

Thank you, Gram, for everything. For the love you shared, the wisdom you imparted, and the paths you paved. Though you are no longer with us in body, your spirit remains integral to our lives. Happy Birthday, dear Gram. Here`s to celebrating the indelible mark you`ve left on our hearts and our endless gratitude for being a part of your incredible journey. ...

Finding Connection: Uncovering the `Lanolin` in Alzheimer`s Care"

"Kelli, I am sorry to bother you on a Saturday morning, but I can`t get June out of the car," Sue explained while talking to June and me simultaneously.

The car sat in the driveway, a stark contrast against the bright blue sky. The morning air was crisp, carrying a hint of dew, and the vibrant spring flowers were in full bloom, painting the scene with their colors. Sue, the private-duty caregiver, had just returned from a trip to the ER with June. June, battling the symptoms of a UTI, was also grappling with the challenges of Alzheimer`s; her vision and hearing were both compromised.

Upon my arrival, I called out to June before approaching the car. "Good morning, June, it`s me, Kelli." I let that sink in until I noticed the slightest recognition on her face.

I placed out my hand, careful not to get too close. Here is my hand. The smell is lanolin, your favorite." Amazingly, June`s sense of smell remained mostly intact. I had learned she loved the smell of lanolin, so I tried to have it available.

I noticed the slightest smile come to her face as she inhaled the smell of lanolin. Again, I offered my hand and suggested we go inside for tea. June took my hand and allowed me to help her from the car.

Here are a few suggestions for helping someone living with Alzheimer`s.

To the best of your ability, get to know the person`s history/story. This allows you to go with them on their journey.

Discovering a connection point can be powerful. I found that June loved the smell of lanolin, and I used that to connect with her. Find your own `lanolin `. It could be the smell of cookies baking, music, or old photos. Regardless, this discovery can empower you to make a significant difference in their life.

Caregivers can offer a wealth of information. Know what questions to ask and document observations to share with your care team.

Clear communication is key. Personalize and update the care plan as needed, ensuring you communicate clearly with the team.

Respecting personal space is paramount in Alzheimer`s caregiving. Always ask for permission before touching or getting too close to the person. ...

The Last Farewell: A Journey of Love, Loss, and Legacy

The spring had been a testament to endurance; heavy and omnipresent clouds mirrored our collective anticipation and sorrow. My Gram, who lived an hour and ten minutes away, was on the final leg of her journey towards a remarkable centennial life. Now under hospice care, she required not just the medical support of hashtag#inhomecare but the unwavering presence of her family. We always celebrated Easter and Gram`s birthday together, and I prayed for one last opportunity to honor her.

The woman who once embodied vibrance, energy, and an indomitable spirit seemed to slip through our fingers.

Entering her room, I caught her gaze—those once bright, penny-brown eyes now dimmed, betraying a haze of confusion. The familiar figure she once knew was now a stranger. Merely a month prior, we were visiting friends, laughing; now, the air hung thick with change and unspoken goodbyes.

Tears splashed over my cheeks, landing in my lap. I knew our days were numbered.

In the last few days, the inevitability of loss had become a stark reality. Yet, in this space, we often find the strength of our bonds and the resilience of the human spirit.

Suggestions for Navigating This Time:

1. Embrace Every Moment: Even in silence, being physically present can be a profound comfort source for you and your loved one.
2. Create a Legacy Project: Collect stories, photos, and memories to celebrate their life. This can be therapeutic and ensures their legacy endures.
3. Seek Support: Lean on friends, family, or support groups. Sharing your journey can lighten your emotional load and provide perspective.
4. Prioritize Self-Care: Neglecting your well-being during these times is easy. Remember, caring for yourself allows you to be there for your loved one.
5. Professional Guidance: Don`t hesitate to consult with hospice care professionals. They can offer medical support and emotional guidance for you and your family.
6. Record or Write Down Conversations: Capture stories or messages from your loved one. These can become cherished memories in the future. I wish I had done this when I had the opportunity. ...

April Showers Bring May Flowers 🌷

As we welcome April, we`re greeted with the promise of Spring, but we also know there might still be some rough patches ahead.

This month holds a special place in my heart as it marks the birthdays of two dear ones: my Gram on April 8th and my goddaughter on April 10th.

April feels like a fresh start, offering new beginnings and a sense of renewal. But for caregivers like us, finding moments to start afresh can be a challenge. So, let`s make April a time for ourselves. Let`s carve out some time to recharge and focus on our well-being.

How are you embracing the arrival of Spring? Share your thoughts in the comments below.⬇️

April Showers Bring May Flowers 🌷

As we welcome April, we`re greeted with the promise of Spring, but we also know there might still be some rough patches ahead.

This month holds a special place in my heart as it marks the birthdays of two dear ones: my Gram on April 8th and my goddaughter on April 10th.

April feels like a fresh start, offering new beginnings and a sense of renewal. But for caregivers like us, finding moments to start afresh can be a challenge. So, let`s make April a time for ourselves. Let`s carve out some time to recharge and focus on our well-being.

How are you embracing the arrival of Spring? Share your thoughts in the comments below.⬇️
April Showers Bring May Flowers 🌷

As we welcome April, we`re greeted with the promise of Spring, but we also know there might still be some rough patches ahead.

This month holds a special place in my heart as it marks the birthdays of two dear ones: my Gram on April 8th and my goddaughter on April 10th.

April feels like a fresh start, offering new beginnings and a sense of renewal. But for caregivers like us, finding moments to start afresh can be a challenge. So, let`s make April a time for ourselves. Let`s carve out some time to recharge and focus on our well-being.

How are you embracing the arrival of Spring? Share your thoughts in the comments below.⬇️ ...

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