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Kelli Bradley

In my thirties, I was focused on my career, traveling, recently married, and beginning what I thought would be the rest of my life. But when my mom was first diagnosed with diabetes, all of that changed…

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"Find your purpose- your why-and you will find your greatest way to make a difference."-John C. Maxwell.

The weekend is a fabulous time to carve out a few minutes of quiet time, rise above the chaos and be intentional with your actions. If you catch yourself saying, "I can't," it often translates to "I won't." The beauty of a new day is it is just that a new day! Have a lovely weekend.
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Have you ever tried to get someone to eat who does not have an appetite? Seniors often struggle with proper nutrition. There are several reasons you may not have considered.

Side effects of medication
Normal aging
Change in taste or sense of smell
Difficulty swallowing or chewing
Depression
Chronic illness

My mom struggled to swallow. Food was such a turn-off she would gag. Her nephrologist suggested small, soft, easy swallow foods like hard-boiled eggs. She loved deviled eggs, 🥚which was an excellent option for a small bite of food packed with nutrition. I also learned that serving too much food in one setting never worked. She had diabetes, so smaller, more frequent meals worked better for several reasons.

We learned that having small snacks for easy access does the trick. Pre-washed berries, veggies with hummus, nuts, and grab and go. 🍆🍓🥒Again, loading the frig with too much food may backfire. I always wanted my mom to have choices but found that giving her too many was overwhelming, and she felt guilty about wasting food. And, don't forget to appeal to them with the food they enjoy. Sometimes, it's the better bad choice when it comes to eating.
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How can you prepare for a diagnosis of Alzheimer's? If you suspect something might be wrong, get a complete medical workup as soon as possible. Hearing the news is devastating. Many family's first reactions are what can we do, is there a cure, etc.? Unfortunately, Alzheimer's is a fatal disease, and it means at least two parts of the brain are dying. Today there is no cure. According to the Alzheimer's Association, at least two-thirds of people living with Alzheimer's in the United States are women.

There will be approximately 500,000 new cases of Alzheimer's disease diagnosed this year in the United States. Every 3 seconds, someone in the world develops dementia. Imagine, every 3 seconds that is insane! By the year 2050, the case of Alzheimer's is expected to more than double without a cure.

If someone in your family lives with Alzheimer's, you may be holding your breath thinking what is next. As you go through this with a parent or loved one, try to remember the person is doing their best. Two parts of the brain are actively dying. They only have so much to work with.

Today in our exclusive Facebook Group, The Silver Lining, we will talk about steps to take after the initial diagnosis. I would love to have you join the discussion today at 4:00 PM PDT over at The Silver Lining.
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Yesterday I was reminded we don't know what we don't know. Life is a journey, and most of us don't think about the day we may need to care for our aging parents. "Difficulties come when you don't pay attention to life's whisper. Life always whispers to you first, but if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you'll get a scream." - Oprah Winfrey.

The last place you want to find yourself is backed against the wall, not knowing what to do next. I know it's challenging to face the fact that your parents are aging. We often think of them in their prime. For goodness sake, these are the people who raised us. How could my hero need help to pay her bills? How could my soccer coach with boundless energy need the support of a walker? I don't know, but here we are. So now what?

The first step is awareness. If you can't physically be with the person, engage with someone who lives closer. Start to build a support system for your parents and yourself. You can do this by identifying the day-to-day. Where are the gaps? Know that this is not a one-and-done exercise. Your parent's needs will evolve and change, as will you. For example, you may have a sibling with limited time, but as her children get back in school, she has more time to dedicate to your parents. You may also consider what different people can bring to the table. Using the divide and conquer approach works well. One person may cook, the other drives, and another helps with household chores and bill paying. Support does not have to fall on the shoulders of one person. If you find yourself in that position, start to build a support system as soon as possible. You may need to engage a professional service organization like in-home care.

"Family and friends are hidden treasures; seek them and enjoy their riches." -Wanda Hope Carter.#oprahquotes #quotes #meaningfullife
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As I woke this morning, I immediately started thinking about the week ahead. Do you ever feel like you wake up on Monday morning, and before you know it, Friday is knocking at your door. I had a couple of appointments today, but both of them were canceled at the last minute. These days any slight change to my plans throws me for a loop.
Imagine how it would feel if you were living with a dementia-related illness?

Routine and structure are so important to someone living with dementia, but what should you do if circumstances change? The person living with dementia often does not have enough reasoning to contribute to the decision-making process. As a daughter, I know this was extremely difficult for our family. Your natural instincts may be to include the person in the planning process. Sometimes being completely transparent can backfire. Only you know for sure how your parent may react to change. Honestly, it can be anything from changing their physical location to switching physicians. The person living with dementia may not only feel a sense of loss, but they may be uncertain what the future holds.
Keep in mind that the person living with dementia may also fixate on certain people, places, or things. My dad would look at my brother as the person who could get him out of memory care. Every visit was excruciating. When are we leaving, when are we going home? Get me the expletive out of this place. Then the guilt sets in, but what do you do when you are out of options? We were unable to care for him at home.

Engage with the staff and learn more about the person's day-to-day. Are they in better spirits in the morning? What makes them light up? What causes anxiety or frustration? Having a precise diagnosis is also vitally important. There are so many forms of dementia, with Alzheimer's being the most common.

Know that you are doing your best!💯 Dementia is heartbreaking. Don't forget that the disease speaks for the person, and you can't always take the words to heart.💕
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If only we knew then what we know now. What advice would you give your twenty-year-old self? ...